Ever feel like you're having a pretty good day and then all of a sudden here comes that one person who spews their negative attitude all over you?
They do such a good job of bringing you from a state of bliss to crashing down onto their miserable level. And that's exactly what they're trying to do. After all, misery loves company.
Let's try to change that. Typically, people who are so miserable are those who lack self love. When you can't love yourself, it's not easy to love others. If anything, these people need love poured out to them even more.
Kill 'em with kindness. That's an old saying that can really take you far. It's hard for someone to keep acting so profoundly negative towards a person who only has kind words to say. They'll either walk away or eventually run out of things to say. Either way is stopping the negative spew though.
Then there are people who don't necessarily try to bring you down, but they only have negative things to say. The complainers. The ungrateful folk.
As I talked about in my lat post, being grateful is key. I have personally found that when practiced daily, I have less and less to complain about. I'm not saying one should never complain. We're human. It happens. However, if you find yourself to be one of these types of people, try to break the habit. It will make you a happier person. After all, no one likes to be around complainers all the time.
If you find yourself around these type of people, try not to let their negativity impact you. I know, easier said than done. I'm still working on this myself. You can try to "reform" them by talking about the good in their otherwise negative banter, walk away, or accept them as they are and know that anything they say is not because of you, it's who they are as a person.
Try to metaphorically zip yourself up in a positivity cocoon. Don't let any of the negative energies penetrate that.
I can go from such a good place mentally, to crashing down to the point where it gives me a stomach ache after talking with certain people. And it's from negativity and stress. It will last all night too if I keep harboring on it. It's practically debilitating for me. That's why I have been trying so hard to keep a thick positivity aura around me.
If you find that no matter what you do, certain people (or even things like social media) are just toxic to you, maybe it's time to cut them out of your life. Or take a break from them/it at least. This will give you a chance to see how you are mentally without them/it. If you find yourself doing much better, maybe it needs to be a permanent change.
You're allowed to cut toxicity out of your life. That's part of self care which we all need a little more of these days.
Take care of yourself. There's only one you and don't you want to be the best version possible? Good luck out there!
Always love,
Cait
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